The Green Light
Know your worth……….Your stock just went up!
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we don’t want to be in; yet we don’t want to make a move and get out of it. Being in a relationship that is toxic clearly is a waste of time. We tend to hang in there in hopes that it will get better or that the person will change. Sometimes we stay in relationships because of the amount of years together or simply because we are just too afraid to move on. The truth of the matter is if a person doesn’t value you or the relationship…………you probably shouldn’t be with them. Life is too short to settle for anything less.
There is this guy I know. He is a very nice, intelligent, and respectable man. He’s educated, attractive, and financially stable. The problem is he is with a woman that doesn’t respect him or value the relationship. He treats her like a queen but she doesn’t appreciate it. She takes him for granted all the time. She doesn’t spend time with him. She hangs out with friends all the time. She doesn’t contribute anything to the relationship. He has confronted her many times and she would temporarily clean up her act. Then it’s back to the same thing. She knows he isn’t going to leave. He has proven that over and over. They have been dating for a few years now. At one point he wanted to marry her but now he knows that wouldn’t be wise. Still he can’t let go. He says he has invested a lot of time in the relationship and he is hoping she will change. He doesn’t want to start over with someone else.
I know what many of you are thinking; especially the ladies……………this guy is stupid!
The thing is ladies, we have been guilty of doing the same thing. It’s easy to see when we are watching the scene but when we are the actual character, we are blinded. Ladies have stayed in relationships that are not going anywhere since the beginning of time. For whatever the reason is, I know a lot of women who have been in his shoes. We think they will change or get better. We don’t want to let all of those years go to waste. Oh and let’s not forget this one………….not having the courage to move on!
Always know your worth! Never settle for anything. Don’t stay in a relationship that isn’t happy, healthy, or isn’t going anywhere. Have the courage to walk away. If they can’t reciprocate what you give in the relationship, someone else can. Tell them they got the green light, so stop holding up traffic and GO!
Check out this video http://youtu.be/cZ17obs-bYM?t=1m9s
Have you ever been or stayed in a dead-end relationship? Do you know your worth? Have you ever had to give someone the green light?
- I don’t settle…so why do you? (thedayiturneduncool.wordpress.com)