The Brush Off
Don’t you just hate when you get the brush off? I’m sure this has happened to almost everyone. Men say this happens to them a lot but I think a fair share of women have had this to happen to them. It really sucks especially if you feel that you and the person really hit it off. Check out this scenario:
Ok so you meet this man/woman and you hit it off great. The chemistry is there. You talk on the phone, text, email, and instant message each other. You finally go out on a date and spend some quality time together. Both of you are enjoying each other and you can’t wait to see each other again. The following day there is no call or text like before, so you are wondering what is going on. It’s the next day and still no communication. Finally you send a text to see if everything is ok and you get a reply stating “I’ve been busy” or “It’s been really hectic lately”. Then you text back and forth for a brief second. After that no more communication. Now you’re wondering if you are getting the brush off or if the person is really busy.
More than likely you are getting the brush off. It is very rare that the person is extremely busy and can’t communicate. The truth of the matter is if the person is really interested in you they will make the time to communicate with you. It shouldn’t be a hassle to send a text, email, or call. That goes for men and women. Here are a few classic example lines to know you’re getting the brush off:
1. I’m really busy. (with work, school, family, etc.)
2. I’m really stressed now.
3. We have conflicting schedules.
4. I’m still trying to figure out what I want.
Even though it sucks, the key is to get the drift and move on. If the person isn’t doing their part to show they are interested, don’t continue to call, text, or email. You don’t want to be a bug-a-boo. I know it would be easier if the person would just tell the truth or say they are not interested at this time, but it’s just human nature to try to soften the blow. By the same token, feelings are still hurt with the truth or a lie. Getting the Brush Off isn’t easy or fun.
Have you ever gotten the brush off? Should a person just say they are not interested or should they make excuses until you get the hint?