A Situationship

What do you call a relationship that is more than friends with benefits but less than an exclusive relationship?

A friend and I had this conversation a couple of months ago. We were trying to figure out how to define such a relationship. This particular friend met a guy and they hit it off instantly. They started hanging out and enjoying each other’s company. The chemistry between the two of them were off the charts. After a couple of months of dating, they decided to discuss where they were relationship wise. The guy wasn’t looking for a significant other, but he didn’t quite see my friend as a fwb. My friend wasn’t looking for a significant other either. She had moved on from another relationship and just wanted to chill. She also felt he was more than a fwb. After jokingly discussing it, my friend came up with the term “situationship”.

What’s a situationship?

A situationship is a fun but tricky in-between stage of being more than friends with benefits but less than a relationship.  It has all the benefits of a relationship without the obligations. The interesting thing is that more often than not a situationship can turn into a full-blown relationship. As with most casual relationships it can get emotionally complicated.

Is it worth it?

The truth of the matter is that a situationship can get complicated.  Despite how complicated it can be, it’s an easygoing alternative to a relationship. You get the best of both worlds.  You get the same benefits of a being in a relationship without the title; while enjoying the freedom of being single. Two things can happen in a situationship. You may find yourself in an exclusive relationship or worse-case scenario, you may crash and burn. You have to decide if it’s worth it to you.

In a Nutshell

A situationship is another casual relationship but a little different from friends with benefits, cutty buddy, booty call, etc. Some may say, why not just be exclusive. If it looks, acts, walks, and quacks like a duck ; then it’s a duck. That may be true but for some they need to have boundaries or restrictions in place before they take a big leap into a relationship. Besides, the traditional relationship in a sense is ever-changing.

As for my friend, her situtationship turned into a relationship. She and the guy have a strong like for each other. In the words of J Cole, they just can’t get enough of each other. That’s a good thing!

Have you ever been in a situationship? What happened? Did you like it? Do tell? What would you call a relationship that is more than friends with benefits but less than an exclusive relationship?

This post is dedicated to my sister friend. She knows who she is. I see you, social butterfly 😉 Love ya!


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Posted on November 15, 2012, in Love & Relationships and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.

  1. I personally feel situationships should be approached with extreme caution! People often claim to be okay with a casual situation, but then feelings arrive on the scene. If both parties are not there simultaneously it is a recipe for DISASTER.


  2. Indeed, a situationship can work as long as both parties are totally honest about their expectations along the way. It’s too close to friends with benefits for my taste – there’s probably feelings on one or both ends, so if one person begins to see someone else, it could get ugly.


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