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All I Want For Christmas……


It’s something about the holidays and cooler temperatures that make men and women want to get a cuddle boo. Perhaps it’s the romantic fires, thoughts of holiday nookie, snuggle-friendly weather, holiday parties, watching others with their boo, or just the pure thought of being lonely. They start searching high and low and when that doesn’t work out, they pull out the cell phone and scroll through the ex-files. The crew over at Bougieland refer to this as the “TapBack”. This is when an old flame reaches out because they want you back, they want to tap for old times sake, or they want to mess with your head.

I’m sure most of you have been hit with the “TapBack” call at least once or twice. I’d venture to say that you have been the initiator of the “TapBack”. 😉

My “TapBack” Story

The other day I posted pictures from the Thanksgiving holiday on Facebook. An old flame saw them and clicked like and left a comment. A day later I got a phone call from Mr. Handsome from the ex-files. We exchanged pleasantries and the conversation took a turn. He said seeing the pictures on Facebook brought back memories of our time together and it got him to thinking about how we should start seeing each other again. He went on to say that I was looking good and he would love to go somewhere for drinks and catch up. He said he’d been thinking about me for a while and he doesn’t understand why we parted ways. Hmmm Interesting

As I recalled we parted ways because we were not on the same page… among other things. It’s funny he now has amnesia. Anyway, back to the story……He continued to lay it on thick. He said I was very good to him and we should pick up where we left off. Then he had the audacity to say it’s cold and he should be keeping me warm at night. I continued to listen to his spill, laugh to myself, and shake my head. Here’s the icing on the cake:

Him: We shouldn’t be alone during the holidays.

Me: What makes you think I am alone?

Him: Are you dating someone?

Me: As a matter of fact, I am!

Him: You guys can’t be serious! I know I still have a chance with you!

Me: How do you know this?

Him: Because we are very good for each other.

Me: Wow!

Him: You are the one thing that would make my holidays complete. All I want for Christmas….is you.

I politely told Mr. Handsome we will not be tapping back. I am no one’s fall back girl. I also told him that what we shared was lovely but that’s in the past.  Loneliness is not a reason to reconnect with someone; especially if it’s temporary. Lastly, I told him to have a Merry Christmas.

I gotta give it to a brother. He really tried to be convincing but I wasn’t buying. Now don’t get me wrong, the “TapBack” isn’t a bad thing. It’s great when both parties are down with tapping back and intentions are clearly stated.  Nonetheless; as with any thing, you have to be careful.

Do you have any “TapBack” stories? Have you ever been the “TapBacker” or the “TapBackee”? Are you looking for a cuddle boo for Christmas?

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A Day in the Life: Random Ish of 2012


Twenty Twelve wasn’t an explosive year for me but I did accomplish a few things and it was an enjoyable year. One thing I accomplished was completing my coursework and starting the beginning phase of writing my dissertation. I began my program the summer of 2010.  It feels great to be one step closer to being Dr. Truthseeker.  Another accomplishment was totally rocking and embracing my natural hair. I started the journey in 2011 and now I am 95.5% natural. Sharing posts about dating, love, relationships, random rants, and issues with you is truly rewarding and an ongoing accomplishment. I’m looking forward to moving forward in Twenty Thirteen.

Now check out pics of the random ish I did in 2012………


Girl’s Night Out at Characters…Them heffas didn’t tell me to fix my shirt!(February 2012)


The Bonds of Sisterhood

Hanging out at Shaggy’s on the beach after attending a cookout (March 2012) 


Happy Cinco de Mayo!! Hmmm I think…maybe it was another function. We still look fly 🙂


Doing my thing at the crib #curlypuff


Hot Summer Nights at the Beau!!


My girl Boho Chic (red shirt) had to make a grand exit for her going away party. She threw a Fifty Shades of Going Away Brunch! The food was stupendous! The party favors were the! We had handcuffs made of chocolate, sugar cookies with sayings from the book, masks, and oh an appearance from Christian Grey himself in Charlie Tango. #fiftyshadesoffun


Waiting for Christian Grey in the Red Room of Pain!


My Top Model Twin Friend. We were born on the same day, same month, same year, same hospital! That ish is crazy!

Chocolate Trouble & Red Head Bandit (She swears that I had Red Hair when I was younger.)


Fifty Shades of Going Away! (September 2012)

Boho Chic make us proud in Italy 🙂


I’m about that Glamorous Life! Smile for the camera now flick, flick, flick! Naturally Me


Rockin the Curly Fro at the All Black Party in NOLA! (November 2012)


Family Times!

My cuz is on the journey #naturalhair!


The bigger the better! Twist-N-Curl


Looking back at the pics I took in 2012 makes me love my natural hair. I can be curly, straight, rock a fro or puff.

Thank you for reading by blog and taking part in my shenanigans! Be careful and be safe! Much love!

Happy Holidays from Truthseeker!!

Celebrating Solo

What do the lonely do at Christmas?

That’s the question that the group, The Emotions ask in their unforgettable holiday song. Have you truly listened to the lyrics. That song is depressing! Don’t get me wrong it’s a nice song and I look forward to blasting it along with other Christmas Classics every year. Listening to it over and over would drive me insane! Click here to listen to the song………

So here is my question…………Who said you had to be lonely for Christmas?

Many people will spend Christmas alone whether single, divorced, married. There are many reasons why people will be alone for Christmas but it doesn’t have to be a sad or depressing time. There are many things you can do to occupy your time during the holidays. The key is creating your own joy. Here is a list of things that you can do to make your holiday one to remember:

1. Break the normal holiday tradition and create your own tradition.

2. Consider an exotic island getaway-Bahamas, Jamaica, or Cancun.

3. Volunteer for a good cause-Shelters could always use the extra help. It would really warm your heart to help others.

4. Surround yourself with others that may be alone for Christmas and have a dinner party or go out and do something fun.

5. Indulge yourself in the things you like to do. Whether it is a cooking, watching movies, reading books, or creating something.

Don’t let the fact that you are alone, stop you from having fun on Christmas. There are many things that you could do by yourself on Christmas, that maybe will not be as much fun when done with someone. You never know, you may just have one of the best Christmases this year.

P.S. Whatever you do don’t listen to that song over and over! 🙂

Share your thoughts or comments.


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